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The first question in this newsletter was sent to me by Debby:
My husband's best friend, "Jack", died suddenly on Saturday, 11/10/07. Right after he died, my ARMED burglar alarm would beep but NOT alert Central Station. I knew it was Jack, but I then I started to notice that the alarm was beeping at the same time (Saturday at 11:10 PM), so I said to Jack, "I know it's you so keep beeping at this time." Since I asked him to do this, my armed Central Station alarm beeps every Saturday at 11:10 PM (notice the date he died was on Saturday, 11/10). It's now eight consecutive weeks; we are happy that he's doing this but my brother made a comment that "He is still around." Should I be worried that he has not crossed over? I thought that he just came around to say hello but now my brother has me thinking that there may be a problem. Can you let me know?
Debby:
Your husband's friend is a real hoot, and has spared no time and way to let you and your husband know that he is around. It is, let me repeat, his job to let you know he's around to help you. And he does the by showing you that he is still a smart ass (as validation)! He is not trapped and, yes, he has "crossed over" and is where he's supposed to be. Trust yourself as you did in the beginning. He's just visiting. The fact that he uses 11:10 couldn't be clearer on this point. Most folks would love such clarity!
Go Jack! Remember, he will stop when you ask him or he knows for sure that you know you've been contacted.
Warmly,
Suzane
This second question was sent to me by Mel:
Dear Suzane,
I have followed my dreams for years and found trends that I could say were sometimes prophetic and symbolic, and oftentimes following a Jungian model such as dreams of my "animus," but he always has the face of someone I have known since I was 12. I met this person two weeks after my father committed suicide and we have had a close friendship and mutual understanding of each other ever since, along with times of intimacy and passion which were never consummated into an acknowledged relationship and we are now 57 years of age. Now he is living with a woman who has made him break off his friendship with me as she sees me as a threat and I am in a difficult relationship which has endured 18 years. I still have disturbing dreams of him being in jail or covered in sores and recently he appears completely emaciated, yet we still embrace and love each other in the dream. I feel deeply connected to him on an inner plane although he is still alive and we are no longer in communication. I never dream about my father anymore but this figure is a constant one and I sometimes think of him as my true soulmate who stepped into my life at that time when I was attempting suicide myself and his calmness and compassion always helped me. I just wish I could communicate with him and be around him now when I am having a difficult time making a break in my present relationship where there has been much emotional abuse and lack of compassion.
Please help me to understand if there is a connection or is it my own unhealthy relationship causing me these disturbing dreams. Thank you.
Mel,
First, I applaud you for moving on and working very hard spiritually, emotionally and mentally in respect to your father's suicide. I, like you, don't believe in accidents and therefore it is my belief that you and your friend came into each other's lives to form that very special connection and bond. I believe it has served you well in the past. However, now I understand your upset and frustration when you could use a friend.
I can't speak for him; he probably still feels the same way, but under the circumstances of his relationship is unable to continue to keep that door open. Unfortunately this often happens in personal relationships, where one party is threatened. However, in saying that, it is and still remains his choice to keep the door closed. Blaming another is never a good reason.
Keep the faith, and be strong, because you'll need to be in your center for your current relationship. I'm not a therapist. Nor do I claim to be one. But what I've learned after all these years as a medium is that oftentimes death opens doors of connection that might not have happened otherwise. Your father's death certainly was a significant turning point, for both you and your friend.
Time will tell if that door is meant to reopen and stay open. In the meantime, I believe some prayer is in order.
All the best to you,
Suzane
This next question was asked by Sue:
Dear Suzane,
First, thank you for sharing your gift. We appreciate your abilities so much. I know that my son is ok, but is he happy? I have read that the beautiful souls that have passed over leave you signs to let you know that they are here with you still. Please tell me, what signs am I missing? I seem to miss so many! I am so lost and depressed without him. Is my son happy? How does he want us to go on with our lives without him in it? It is so difficult and at times unbearable. We miss him so much. We love him as much as we miss him. He was very special, very kind and caring. He had a heart as big as his love for his family and friends. How can he be gone? It hurts so bad. Thank you so very much for sharing. Please take care. Sue
Sue,
Thank you for the kind words. I am honored to share my gift especially with parents who have lost children. No matter how old they were or in what way they passed, it's always difficult when a child passes before a parent.
I personally can't tell you the signs that you are missing since they are truly individual. As I have said many times, the signs often happen right after our loved one's passing. Perhaps you can visit my message board and share anything you may recall, especially with other mothers who may be able to provide some feedback for what you are going thru and missing.
What I can tell you is that your son is in a place of love and caring. I have no doubt that his heart is as big as you say, and that his love of family is tremendous. No matter how difficult it is, you need to know that your son is honored by your love, and that your love honors him as well.
Do your best and go on as you think he would want you to do, living as happy a life as you can as his mom, as a member of his family. That's what will make him the most happy.
Sometimes it's during our pain when we may feel a contact, and if you do, that's when you'll need to tell him how you feel, even if you may be crying.
Keep the faith, and what I can promise is that you will see him again.
Warmly in faith,
Suzane
The last question this newsletter was sent to me by Susan. She asked:
Hi Suzane,
Why are there so many Autistic children? Is there a reason for this? Is there such a thing as a chart you map out before you are born? Will these children with disabilities continue to have them when they pass on? Will they someday be reincarnated to a better life? Thanks so much!
Susan,
I can't say "why", except there is a divine plan behind it. What I do know is that there are now many "indigo children" and "crystal children" and very "tuned in" children of all kinds.
I have talked abut this at length with many teachers. Those in education are well aware that many children exhibit "knowing things" and seem to have very special connections to Spirit. It may not be for awhile that we know all the answers.
Meanwhile, I might suggest Meg Blackburn's books where she discusses this phenomena at length. You can also listen to her interview on my show, which is in my archives. I believe the show was in February of 2007.
For those parents who have those special children around you, I might add that you, too, are special, since we all choose our parents and they have chosen you.
All the best,
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