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The first question in this newsletter was sent to me by Debby:
Dear Suzane,
My grandson was stillborn at the beginning of the ninth month of pregnancy. I was wondering, since he did not get a chance to "live", whether his soul will reincarnate to the mother's next pregnancy? Thank you.
Debby:
Very sorry to hear about the loss of your grandson. Please keep him in your prayers. This was the soul's decision, made by the soul of your grandson. I honestly can't say - and no one can - that he will incarnate into the mother's next pregnancy. What I can say is that he is connected to your family since he has made himself known to you. This soul came in for what could be many reasons, but whatever the reasons, it was his knowing choice not to stay here, as hard as that may be to accept for you, the parents, and all others affected by this most difficult loss.
Blessings to you and the boy's parents.
Warmly,
Suzane
This second question was sent to me by Durella:
Dear Suzane,
I have people who have crossed over come to me in my sleep. When my mother died, about two weeks later I woke up talking to her. She was stuck in a gray void, like a round cloud. She kept saying, "Durella! You have to help me!" This went on for five nights. As each night came there would be one more person just outside the void trying to get her attention, to no avail. I was scared to go to sleep, knowing I wasn't helping her either. So I called a friend who is a hypnotherapist, and we did a session and had her turn and go to the light where family members were waiting. This worked!
My question now is, how come I can't do this in the waking state?
Thank you for any help on this.
Durella
Durella:
First, I hope things are better now during your sleep! To be honest, I'm not quite sure that this was a true DP contact dream, since there was so much fear involved. DP contact dreams are generally based on love. This seemed more fear-based, the kind of dream where unresolved issues trigger a kind of nightmare.
On the positive side, if it was a true contact dream, things are resolved now. I would suggest that you consider doing your own research on this matter, and perhaps some meditation and prayer. As you go forward, ask your Higher Power, spirit guides and spirit helpers for protection, as I often suggest in my books.
All the best,
Suzane
This final question was asked by Jody:
Thank you for all that you do to help heal hearts here on this plane!
I wonder if you can help me with this. My mother and I did not have a happy life together. We just simply never really got along. I tried in the years before her death to get close to her while I was having my own children, trying to connect and get to know her. She was cold towards me and I never really knew her. She died a couple of years ago, and although I knew she was dying, I never traveled to Wisconsin to see her. I feel now as if I have always been mourning the loss of a mother I never "had". Her death didn't leave me feeling any differently, only that I had to give up on the hope of one day having a mother/daughter relationship. I wonder constantly why she disliked me so. I know I was a handful as a child, but no more so than other children. Will I ever know? Her not loving me has really broken my heart. I now have a truly beautiful family life with my husband and three children, and while that is a comfort, I also know what I missed out on. Still, I wonder, why? What did I do wrong? It really affects how I function in this world and my inability to love myself.
Jody
Jody,
I know how painful something of this nature is, and often we never really get to know the answer. Getting close to the answer requires a tremendous soul-searching, which you have already done. You tried your best, and are living with a decision which I'm sure had to be difficult.
And yes, I know how this can be a cancer in our life. But, it is time - overtime actually - to let this go. Don't let it be a cancer in your life, because it will affect the essence of all you have in your life, including your own relationship with your husband and children. Someday you may be able to understand this whole picture, but don't worry about that. I think it's important for you to acknowledge what transpired, and that you were able to bring a loving family into your life when it sounds like that wasn't the case with your mom. This is a tremendous achievement on your part, and maybe that was the challenge you had to face in this life.
Of course, death always put another twist on things as we feel nostalgic and remorseful. But remember, in death there is also birth, and just maybe where your mom is now, she can see the mistakes she apparently made and would not want those mistakes to destroy your family relationships.
Forgive her, and that will help her on the Other Side. And if you feel you did anything wrong, forgive yourself, and that of course will help you here.
It is important to love yourself, and that is the reason you brought a beautiful family of love into your life. Live in that present, and let go of the past. Open your heart and love yourself as your family loves you, for their sake as well as your own.
All the best to you,
Suzane
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