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The first question in this newsletter was sent to me by Tony:
Dear Suzane,
I'm sure our house has spirits. Our ten year old daughter sees them and she is terrified. I think she has seen them since she was about three years old but her fear has increased lately. Any advice?
Thank you,
Tony
Tony:
I'm sure this has been very difficult for all of you since we wish more than anything to protect our children. These spirits are probably drawn to your daughter because children are often more open and thus susceptible. As to why these occurrences are causing more fear in your daughter lately, that would be very hard to answer. This just might be a difficult period. In any event, what your daughter needs to realize first is that these spirits can do her no harm. Second, she has the power to send them away. What she needs to do is take an authoritative stance and be firm and forceful. My usual directive is to tell unwelcome spirits forcefully, and repeatedly if necessary: "If you are not here with God's permission, LEAVE!" Believe me, this works! You can call on the "angels" as well to assist. You may also want to consider setting up a ceremony of prayer of sorts, whatever might work for you along these lines.
Finally you might want to smudge your house with sage (i.e., light sage and go through your house and spread the smoke all over, into every corner, behind and under furniture, etc.) so these spirits really get the message that they are not welcome. While smudging, repeat my directive (above) to let any unwelcome spirits know that they have to leave.
All the best . . . keep me posted.
Blessings,
Suzane
This second question was sent to me by Eileen:
My daughter and I had a big fight two days before she died in a car accident, I miss her so much. Do you think the reason I don't feel her around me is because of the fight?
Eileen
Eileen:
I am deeply sorry for your loss. A child's passing is without question among the most difficult.
The reason you feel you have made no contact is likely connected to the intensity of your grief, and surely is NOT because of a silly argument. I have no doubt that your daughter has come to you but in your grief, you've been unable to recognize the signs. I believe that your daughter has come to others as well.
Please realize that your daughter is not focused on what transpired between you and her just prior to her passing. Rather, she sees the BIG picture and wants her mother to know that she is fine and loves her very much. Try to open your heart and realize how your daughter would want you to think and feel about your continued connection, rather than focusing on those silly words that never really express what we truly feel deep down anyway.
I would suggest that each morning upon rising, and at night before going to bed, ask your daughter to give you a message in a way that you will receive and understand and connect to. Then be patient and open, and you will feel your daughter around you.
Blessings to you,
Suzane
This final question was asked by Mari:
Suzane,
This question goes back to when I was a little girl. There was a boy in the neighborhood that I played with. We were very close and then my family moved and we had no contact 'till high school. He ended up dying when he was a sophomore. I couldn't bring myself to go the visitation or funeral. My parents did not pressure me to go either. I was wondering if he at times comes to me . . . I have been married two times, been in a long term relationship for eight years, and now am in another relationship for two years. Seems marriage/relationships don't always work out for me, and I was wondering if this is because I really in the past 31 years haven't put closure to him.
Any insight would be great . . .
Thank you.
Mari
Mari,
I honestly don't think that the boy's passing has anything to do with the problems you've been having with your personal relationships per se. However, having a relationship end is a kind of "death" and you may be somehow connecting the boy's death to the relationships that have ended.
Very often when we experience at a young age the loss of a close friend, conflicts or difficulties arise because of unresolved feelings. But despite the early history and no matter what, you CAN have a full connected relationship with someone. You may need to work a little harder when issues or conflicts arise, but it can be done.
I've dealt with many people who have had their hearts broken and find it hard to move on. Then one day they realize how important it is to love and be loved, and go for it. Try to open your heart and let love in. Easier said than done, to be sure, but I believe this is what your young friend would want.
Best to you,
Suzane
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