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The first question in this newsletter was sent to me by Anne:
Suzane,
My mother passed away from pancreatic cancer in August of last year as my dad did 11 years ago. Do you know if my mom and dad are together and are they watching over us? When my mom first passed away, I felt her with me all the time but as time goes on I am not feeling her with me anymore. Is she not with me anymore?
Thank you,
Anne
Anne:
What you are experiencing is quite common. To be very honest, it seems the longer DPs are in spirit, the less we feel them. Sometimes, but not always, the more intense the love and connection, the longer the connection may be felt. Also, often if they've communicated with us and let us know that they are around, they feel that they have done their job, so to speak, and are free to move on.
Now in saying all that, I want you to know that it doesn't mean they still don't come around, on special days like holidays, birthdays, etc. But maybe not as much, and maybe we just do not feel them as much.
As for your parents being together . . . that would totally depend on them and their connection. Free will and all that. They may feel they have other things to do and/or other people to hang out with so to speak, or they may hang together. Or mix various possibilities.
Keep those thoughts of love open. We never know when that next visit may be coming.
Best,
Suzane
This second question was sent to me by Bridget:
My friend lost her husband about a month ago. He committed suicide - a really great guy in his mid-thirties with so much more of a life to lead. His wife, a friend, was truly dedicated and in love with him. Their daughter just turned one year old. No one saw this coming, no signs only the tragic act in the end. His wife is beside herself in grief and wondering why. She believes she sees signs of him trying to get through to her. Her daughter has even said "hi daddy". She went to a reading with another person that has your gift. Apparently 30 people went to the reading and my friend was one of the two people who had no contact from their DP. I read about suicide answer under frequently asked questions which of course raised more questions. Is her husband still in so much pain he can't come through except with signs at the house? Would he ever be able to tell her why he left her and their daughter? She wants answers because I believe she feels she missed her husband's sadness and feels guilt that she couldn't help him. I guess my main question is are you always able to make that contact with a DP and get those answers? Have you ever had anyone that needed you so badly to contact a DP and nothing happened? I have been to one of your seminars in CT - after hearing you numerous times on Craig and Company's morning show. If my friend by some miracle can call in and get through to you, would her husband come through . . . is it worth it to tell her not to give up trying to communicate with the one man she loved completely? Thank you for your time or your staff's for reading this.
Bridget
Bridget:
What a wonderful and true friend you are. The most important way we can help those we love is to stretch beyond our limits and do all we can. I believe you have done this.
Yes, I write a lot about suicide in most of my books and quite honestly there is no simple or easy way to answer all the if's, and's and why's. What I can tell you is that your friend's husband was met by love and is healing his soul on the Other Side. This doesn't mean he won't continue to work on balancing his soul with his actions, or not visit. It just means that he may have things to work on.
Your friend may honestly never know the reasons or get the answers she's looking for. But if she is open to signs, what she can receive is communication and validation from her husband.
I don't think a radio reading is the best answer for your friend, but if she gets through, then it was meant to be that way. I have in the past had situations, such as in a large group seminar, where the DPs you are so anxious to hear from don't come through. Thus, a smaller or even private setting is preferred.
If you friend wants to have a sitting with a medium, I would highly suggest a private session, or maybe a session with you or a family member there as comfort and to take notes. I would recommend someone with "the best" credentials she can find. She should go to the session with an open mind, not with expecting to find all the answers. Rather, she should look to receive information to validate his presence.
Many blessings for being there. I hope this will lead your friend to get the help she's seeking.
Suzane
This final question was asked by Debby:
Hi Suzane. I was wondering if you could answer this question. My husband was seven years older than I am; he committed suicide in August of 2008. I know it was not in his "blueprint" to do this but did it "mess up" my "blueprint" when he committed suicide or did my "blueprint" already include this?
Thanks,
Debby
Debby,
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Yes, naturally without question, we want know how our own life is being affected is situations like this. Basically, we are all affected because we are all connected to our loved ones and their actions will always effect us. And with suicide, even more so. The event leaves us with many challenges to deal with, and I will tell you it's not easy.
His blueprint probably included this as a possibility, and if you were to be with him, it was a possibility for you as well to experience what you are going through now. But no, he didn't mess up your blueprint. While we are all affected by the actions of those we love, we have our own blueprints. Your blueprint is yours, no one else's.
If you have not already done so, try to find it in your heart as best as possible to forgive him and yourself, and move on. I might suggest that you read Judy Collins book, Sanity and Grace, a wonderful loving book on how with a suicide, there are many skeletons in our closets.
May peace and love be with you,
Suzane
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